attachment and relationship-oriented approach
Attachment and relationship-oriented focuses on the constructive relationship with the child. Instead of focusing on how a child behaves, what it achieves or how it can be made to fit, it is about seeing the child as an autonomous person and relationship partner.
To see who the child is and to accept him or her, with all his or her individuality and personality.
The iceberg model helps us to better understand what is going on in a child on an emotional level, why they behave the way they do. The iceberg also shows what certain ways of dealing with children and parenting methods do to children on an emotional level. If these go against the needs of a child or ignore them completely, the unfulfilled needs lead to strong feelings, anger and possibly new challenging behaviors or to the child suppressing or adapting their feelings and needs. Both leave their mark on the relationship and also on the child's development.